First of all, this is seen in many children who tend to change the school or the class while in their last years at school. It gets difficult for few to adjust. You can support your child here by asking her to be more focused on her work rather than trying to fit in for doing things which is against her values. Her performance in the class will raise her bar.
Harsha ,there are multiple reasons , few of which are :
Make your child understand his/her worth. Things will go better soon.
Explain the consequences of being bullied and being a bully. When a child is involved in bullying others, to some extent, the child is low on confidence , from within he too is insecure . Work on this please.
Start appreciating his small efforts, make him feel worthy of himself, sit with him and let him express his feelings , avoid using language like soft, unable to do, you aren’t strong etc which hurts him deep down, reason being, parents are their big supporters and if we as parents don’t support, their core is affected.
Sit with him and talk. Give him your quality time. Also by any chance if you feel it’s not working out, don’t shy from taking professional help.
First of all, lots of love to your little one. Never ever should a child be taught – not to hit back . Gone are the days when we say that if somebody hits you on your right cheek, extend your left to them. Now, teach your children that never initiate but if somebody does harm to you, defend yourself. Go and meet the school authorities, take their help. Side by side, help your child to excel in something, which will help him gain confidence.
Ask the school authorities to take care about this. Usually, the class teacher makes it so inclusive that the children start helping each other. There seems to be a miss from their part, please meet them.
Not every time do parents need to intervene. Few things they need to sort out from their end and this is one of them. If the child gives back, it means he knows what actions can harm others and him as well. In regard to anger tantrums, start affirmations in the night, you will see the difference in the next 7 to 8 days only.
Affirmations are positive statements spoken in regard to a particular issue in regard to the child. They are supposed to be spoken when the child has gone to sleep and not gone into deep sleep, so that the subconscious mind picks up and the child accordingly benefits.
First of all, show to the pediatrician, the weight is really less. Consult a nutritionist and get his food right. Things will go good soon, post this though. Also the pediatrician will surely counsel him as well to help him overcome his inhibitions
5 years is too young to assess whether the child is social or not. Let the child handle the issues unless you see the major damage coming her way, else they would never be street smart. Yes, make her strong from within, explain to her the ways out and she will handle it her way, for sure.
Check your parenting style. When we parents have a habit of tagging and nagging our children a lot, instructing all the time, they fail to handle situations on their own. Try and work upon this.
She is way too insecure. This can happen with first childs’, if the mother was tense or fearful during their pregnancy. Otherwise, start spending some quality time with her, let her speak her heart out, give her non judgemental space to talk and share, she will surely go less on her dominating spree.
Talk to her please. Take help from a professional, may be a sitting or two would help her sort this for sure.
Riddhi Doshi Patel is a Child Psychologist by profession. She is an Internationally certified Parenting and Behaviour Coach. She is a National awardee and a three time TEDx speaker. In the past 13+ years she has conducted numerous workshops, talks, counseling sessions covering 25000+ students and 6500+ women from various fields. She has been awarded with “National Award for Cultural Activities by AVANTIKA- Delhi”, “Excellence in Wellness”, “Young Entrepreneurs Award”, “Self Made Diva Award” among various others.
Her expertise lies in the areas of bullying, overcoming anxiety, understanding and managing anger, self care for parents, understanding and managing stress, handling conflicts among teens, etc.
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