Any time after 11 years of age.
No such specifications in today’s generations. I as a counselor have to speak to all genders regarding the same topic.
This is one of the good techniques to explain children. Nothing more to advise.
There’s basically a set of rules in psychology for teenagers, for example, maintain a close bond (good rapport) with your child.
Visit a Counselor. But still the query is how did you explain? Or maybe who explained?
For today’s generation, yes we can.
Explain the importance of Time / Space / Independence and correlation with Gadgets. Do you think anyone can stop it ? We always keep saying this. But then we must remember that our generation has been taught to fight with odds and still survive. We have to do the same. Use the same gadgets to tell them the Beauty of Companionship, difference of fact and fiction, importance of financial stability.
Start with whatever the child is comfortable with, maybe talking about sports and friendship, or may be any specific subject in school and the teacher. See basically infatuations are mostly for teachers in a specific subject.
Perfectly true. Listen to your child. Understanding them without being judgemental is very important. Love can happen, but is it really Love or infatuation (first you try to understand the difference). As a parent, I advise all to be calm and Explanatory; Have Open discussions (without any hesitations). Don’t feel that only a father can talk to a son or a mother can talk to a daughter. We psychologists talk with equality. Primarily be a good listener and don’t be judgemental.
Let us be clear that I am talking about infatuations – when a child feels some fascination about some individual of the same age or generally of older / higher age, because of physical attractions. Kids get various exposure but in a wrong way, resulting in incorrect understanding. Parents can only and should talk to them.
Fantastic idea, but why not in general everyday talk ? Is there any harm or you want to highlight that topic. Communication with your child doesn’t require a specific occasion. Speak anytime, anywhere.
Yes, earlier generations in many situations were very open and clear. Hence perhaps we never required any Psychologist or Counselor.
Attend some parenting guidance workshops in the summers this year.
May or may not be. Kids /teenagers around me / my family come and tell me, they share everything with me. So I advise, you try to develop a close bonding and the child needs faith in you to tell you.
Unfortunately not possible today as the session will be over. But for sure, we can do it sometime later.
But he’s not the parent. He can be a good guardian but then still some things may slip out.
Abhra Pratip Ray – How to talk about love and infatuation with your teenage child
Abhra Pratip Ray is a Professor, Teachers’ Trainer, Educator, Psychometric Trainer, Counselor. He is the owner and Director of Pinnacle EDUCARE(An organization into research of Behavior of senior secondary students and behavioral therapy) and Rays Academy and has been awarded as the ‘Best Teacher by Image Achievers Welfare Forum, Mumbai and the Best Education Mentor award from Brands Academy, Delhi’. He has written 39 research papers into Educational behavior of Adolescents. Abhra Pratip Ray has recently presented a research paper in a state level seminar. His expertise lie in Parenting & Mistakes, Empowering Girls, Early Adulthood, Parental Rights, etc.